A repair offered too quickly can ask someone to finish feeling before they are ready.

Wanting to fix things for someone is usually love in a hurry. The suggestion arrives while they are still in the middle of describing what is wrong, and it quietly asks them to move on to the solution stage, which is a stage they may not be in yet. What was offered as help can land as a request to stop.

When someone tells you something painful, ask whether they want ideas or company before giving either. Sitting with a difficulty is a real contribution, even though it feels like doing nothing. The repair keeps until they are ready for it.