They that govern the most make the least noise.

Real authority is quiet because it does not need to be demonstrated. Noise usually comes from people whose control is uncertain and who have to keep asserting what would otherwise be obvious. Where matters are actually being run well, the running is nearly invisible, and most of the work happened before anyone noticed there was a decision to make. Visibility and influence are close to opposites.

Measure yourself as a leader by how little you had to intervene this week. And when you meet somebody loudly in charge, ask who is actually deciding.