The person who screams, or uses the superlative degree, or converses with heat puts whole drawing-rooms to flight. If you wish to be loved, love measure.

Intensity empties a room faster than disagreement does. Everything stated at maximum, every opinion delivered hot, forces the people around you to manage your temperature instead of thinking about the subject. It reads as a demand rather than a contribution, and people quietly stop bringing things to you.

Take the heat out of one thing you feel strongly about and state it flatly instead. Drop the superlatives and let the substance carry it. You will find the point travels further at a lower volume, and people stay in the room to hear the rest.