Build a life you would still want if nobody envied it.

Envy is a poor guide to what will actually suit you, and a life designed to attract it tends to be uncomfortable to live in. The house that photographs well, the position that impresses at gatherings, the schedule that sounds important. Strip away the audience and ask whether the days would be good ones, because the days are what you will actually be having.

Picture your current goals achieved in a place where nobody could see any of it. Notice which parts still appeal and which lose their colour. Steer toward the first set, even if it makes for a less impressive summary.