If you are going to fight, fight the part that actually keeps defeating you.

It is much more comfortable to fight adjacent battles than the one that has been beating you for years. You can be very busy with legitimate difficulties while carefully never approaching the actual thing, and from outside it looks like effort. The problem that keeps recurring is the one where the energy belongs.

Name the pattern that has defeated you more than once. Be specific, since a vague version cannot be fought. Then choose one concrete thing you have never tried against it, and try that rather than repeating the approach that has already lost.