Only actions give life strength only moderation gives it charm.

Two qualities are being separated here, and they pull in different directions. Strength comes from doing things, since nothing merely intended ever holds weight, while the pleasantness of a life comes from not doing any of it to excess. A person can be formidable and exhausting at the same time, and the remedy is rarely more force.

Look at the places where you are strong and ask whether anything has tipped past useful. Discipline that has hardened into rigidity, generosity that has become depletion, ambition that has eaten the evenings. Keep the action and trim the amount, then see whether the week feels different.