He who loves with purity considers not the gift of the lover, but the love of the giver.

What arrives in your hands is only the visible end of something. A gift that misses your taste can still carry an hour of someone thinking about you, and an expensive one can carry nothing at all. Weighing what you are given teaches you to keep accounts; reading what is behind it teaches you who is actually there. The second is harder because it cannot be measured, only noticed.

Think of a small thing someone did for you recently that you barely registered. Consider what it cost them in attention or nerve. Then say the thank you that names the care rather than the object.