Choosing means allowing some possibilities to die.

Every choice is also a set of small deaths. The lives you would have had on the other roads stop being possible the moment you commit, and part of what makes deciding hard is grief rather than uncertainty. Recognizing that can make the difficulty feel less like a failure of nerve.

When you struggle to choose, ask what you are being asked to give up rather than only what you are being asked to pick. Let yourself feel the loss of the versions you are declining. Naming the grief usually makes the decision itself easier to complete.