The things that we love tell us what we are.

— Thomas Aquinas

REFLECTION

WHAT THIS MEANS

What you are drawn to describes you more accurately than what you say about yourself. Your stated values are chosen; your affections are not, which is why they give you away. Look at where your attention goes when nothing is required of it, and you have a fairly honest portrait. Self-knowledge is less about introspection than about noticing what you keep returning to.

Spend a few minutes listing the things you have loved without being able to justify it: a subject, a kind of person, a way of spending an afternoon. Ask what they have in common. Then check whether your week has room for any of it.

A QUESTION TO SIT WITH

What do your loves say about you that you rarely admit?

MORE IN MINDSET & IDENTITY

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