Quiet confidence does not confuse attention with respect.

Attention and respect can look similar from a distance and are entirely different in substance. Attention comes and goes with novelty; respect accumulates from behaviour over time, and cannot be produced by being interesting. Chasing the first often costs you the second.

Ask what you actually want in a given situation: to be noticed, or to be trusted. If it is the second, the moves are different and slower. Do not let the availability of attention distract you from work that earns something more durable.