There is a strong pull to get past disappointment quickly, to reframe it and move on before it can hurt much. But disappointment often knows something you do not: about what you actually wanted, about what was wrong, about what you had been ignoring. Rushing past it leaves that information behind.

Give the feeling a little time before you convert it into a plan. Ask what it is pointing at. You can be gentle with yourself and still let the feeling finish saying what it came to say.