The rooms you choose to walk into decide which conversations start feeling normal.

Normal is not something you decide, it is something you absorb. Whatever gets said repeatedly around you stops sounding extreme after a few weeks, whether that is casual cruelty, casual ambition or casual giving up. You are not weak for this. Everyone recalibrates to the room they spend the most hours in.

Look at where your hours actually go and what gets said there. If one space is steadily lowering what you expect from yourself or other people, you do not have to denounce it. Just add a different room and let the comparison do the work.