Taking ownership removes unnecessary dependence on apologies.

Waiting for someone to apologize gives them ongoing control over when you can move forward. Sometimes the apology never comes, and sometimes it comes and does not help. Taking ownership of your own recovery removes that dependency without excusing anything.

If you are waiting on words from someone, ask what you would do if you knew for certain they were never coming. Consider starting that now. You can still want the apology; you just do not have to be held by it.