If you only argue to win, you’ll never find out when you’re wrong.

Arguing to win turns every exchange into defense, and defense cannot take in new information. You will still be right sometimes, and you will never find out about the other times, because you built a process that cannot report them. Being wrong is not the expensive part. Not finding out is.

Go into one disagreement this week trying to locate the thing you have not considered. Say out loud when something lands, even if you still disagree with the rest.