Your standard isn’t what you say you want. It’s the worst thing you keep putting up with.

What you tolerate is a better description of your standard than anything you announce. People can hear what you want, but they watch what you let slide, and so do you. The lowest thing you keep accepting quietly becomes the floor, and everything else settles onto it.

Name one thing you have been putting up with, in a group, a habit, or how somebody speaks to you. Decide what you are doing the next time it happens, before it happens. Raising the floor once tends to move a lot of other things with it.