Win loud if you want. Just don’t make the people you beat pay for your celebration.

Celebrating is not the problem, aiming it is. There is a version of joy that is about what you did, and a version that needs someone else to feel small before it works. From the inside they are hard to tell apart, because both feel great. From the outside everybody spots the difference instantly.

After the next win, give yourself thirty seconds of noise and then go find whoever lost. Shake the hand, say one real thing about how they played. You keep the entire celebration and give up none of it.