Judging someone for the thing you did last week isn’t standards. It’s amnesia.

Standards mean applying the same measure to yourself that you apply to everyone else. What usually happens instead is that your version had reasons, context and a bad week attached, while theirs was simply what they are like. That is not hypocrisy on purpose. It is just that you have access to your own excuses and nobody else’s.

Before you write someone off, spend one second checking whether you have done a version of it. If you have, you are allowed to have an opinion, just a quieter one. People tend to listen harder to the person who admits they have been there.