The ref missed it. You didn’t. Winning that way means carrying the replay in your head forever.

An official missing something does not make it not have happened. It just means the record and the reality have separated, and you are the only person holding both. Take the result anyway and you get to keep the points and the footage in your head, which plays at odd moments for a long time. That replay is the actual cost and no scoreboard reflects it.

Say it. One sentence to the referee or the other team is all it takes, and it is over in five seconds. What you get back is not having to think about it again.