People who are secure don’t need to win every argument. They can afford to leave some on the table.

Needing to win is usually a sign that something else is at stake, like proving you are not stupid or not small. When that pressure is gone, an argument becomes just a disagreement, and you can let one go without feeling like you lost something. Walking away costs a secure person almost nothing. It costs an insecure person their whole footing.

Next time you feel the pull to get the last word, try naming what you are actually defending. If it is the point, keep going. If it is your standing in the room, put it down and see that nothing falls apart.