Some people take a year to open up. Rushing them just teaches them you’re not safe yet.

People open at their own speed, and pushing at that speed is itself a piece of information they file about you. A question meant to bring you closer lands as a demand, and demands make people careful. None of it is personal; they are still working out whether the room is safe.

Ask less and stay longer. Turn up when you said you would, keep the small things you were already told, and let the next layer arrive without a request attached. Consistency, not interest, is what reads as safe.