A crush you have to chase every day isn’t a slow burn. It’s a slow no.
STILLNESS
WHAT THIS MEANS
Effort that only travels one direction is itself the answer. You keep reading the gaps as shyness or a busy week, and building an explanation that lets you stay hopeful, because the plain reading hurts more. Somebody who wants to talk to you generally manages to talk to you.
Stop initiating for two weeks and see what comes back. Not as a trick or a punishment, just as a way of finding out. If nothing comes, that is information about fit and not a ranking of you, and it frees up a surprising amount of your week.
A QUESTION TO SIT WITH
Who are you chasing who never chases you back?
MORE IN PATIENCE & TIMING
- Showing your mom how to use her phone for the fifth time? She showed you how to use a spoon about five hundred times.
- Bird watchers know it: move fast and you’ll see nothing. Sit still long enough and the whole tree wakes up.
- Surfers spend most of the session sitting on the board. The wave they catch is the reward for all that sitting.
Free, with nothing to buy inside it.