Handing over your passwords isn’t proof of love. Real trust doesn’t need your login.

Access is not the same as trust. Handing over accounts turns a question about how someone feels into a monitoring system, and monitoring never settles anything, because there is always one more thing left to check. The relief lasts a day. The checking lasts as long as you allow it.

If you get asked, you can say no and still be willing to talk about what they are actually worried about, which is the conversation that helps. Keeping your own accounts is not a secret you are hiding. It is the ordinary line every person gets to have.