If you can’t explain your why without a quote from someone else, you haven’t found it yet.

Borrowed language is a good way to sound settled about something you have not settled. A line from a coach or a video fills the space where your own reason belongs, and because it sounds finished, nobody asks the follow-up question, yourself included. Your real reason is usually smaller and less impressive than the borrowed line. It is also the one that holds when things get hard.

Try saying why you do your main thing in plain words with nothing borrowed. If you cannot get through it, that is not failure, only a sign the reason is still forming. Come back in a month.