Watch how people lose. That’s the only time you’ll see what they do without the win to protect them.

Winning hides almost everything about a person. With the scoreboard on their side, nothing is being asked of them, so nothing gets revealed. Losing takes the padding away, and what is left is how someone treats teammates, refs, and themselves when there is no result to hide behind.

Watch the bench after a bad game this week, or the group chat after a project comes back with a low grade. Notice who goes quiet and fair, who goes cruel, who hunts for the nearest person to blame. Then notice your own version, because other people are reading you the same way.