If they know exactly what makes you mad, they know exactly how to move you. Keep that map private.

Being easy to set off works like a remote control you handed out yourself. Once a person learns which word or topic reliably lands, they can pick the temperature of your day from across a room, and they will, because it works and it is free. Your anger is not the flaw here; its predictability is what gets used.

Name your two most reliable triggers honestly this week. When one gets pulled, do the boring thing: slow breath, shrug, change of subject. Stay angry on the inside if you are angry, and just stop letting it work like a button.