What you avoid says as much about you as what you chase.

Avoidance is a map with the labels hidden. The call you keep not making, the subject you change, the class you skip: each one marks something you would rather not find out about yourself, and together they outline a shape. Goals get all the attention because they are flattering. The avoided list is usually the more accurate portrait.

Write down three things you have been putting off that are not actually hard to do. Next to each, write what you are afraid it will turn out to mean. Do the smallest one this week and see whether the fear was accurate.