Your mess isn’t garbage. It’s compost. Good stuff grows out of it later.

Bad experience does not have to be thrown out to stop being harmful. Broken periods contain material: knowledge of how people behave, of what you can stand, of what you will not do again. That value takes time and is not available right away, which is why being told to find the bright side early is useless. Falling apart is a stage rather than a waste.

Stop trying to extract a lesson from something still raw. Keep it, leave it alone, and check back in a year. What is unusable now often turns out to be the richest thing you own.