Argue like you’re trying to learn something, not like you’re trying to finish someone.

There are two things people can be doing in a disagreement, and only one of them involves the topic. Arguing to win means hunting for the sentence that ends the other person, which works badly on anyone you have to keep living near. Arguing to learn is slower and leaves you with more than you came in with.

Set one goal for your next hard conversation: come out knowing something you did not know before. Ask a real question before you make your next point. The urge to land a finishing line will still be there, and you can simply not use it.