Dance badly at the wedding. Everyone standing against the wall secretly wishes they had your nerve.

Self consciousness is contagious and so is its opposite. The people pinned to the wall are not judging you; they are envying the fact that you stopped calculating. Looking slightly foolish in public is a small price for an evening you actually attended rather than observed.

Give yourself one song where you are not managing how you appear. Keep going long enough to get past the first thirty seconds, which is where the self watching lives. Most of the memories worth having come from the part of the night where you were not being careful.