Home is sometimes the place where your nervous system stops expecting to explain itself.

Most places require a small ongoing performance: an explanation of yourself, a version calibrated for the room. Home is where that stops running, and the relief is physical rather than emotional. You notice it in your shoulders and your breathing before you notice it in your thoughts, which is why it can take a while to realise a place is not providing it.

Pay attention to where you actually stop explaining yourself, and to who is present when that happens. Then spend more time there. Somewhere that lets you go quiet is worth arranging your life around.