The temper, the silent treatment, the money panic: some patterns got inherited. Inheritance isn’t an obligation.

Some of what you do under pressure was learned before you could evaluate it. The shortness, the withdrawal, the panic about money: those arrived by demonstration, from people who were doing their best with what they were given. Recognising where it came from is not a charge against anyone, and it is not a life sentence for you.

Pick the one pattern that does the most damage and interrupt it once. Say the thing instead of going quiet, or check the balance instead of avoiding it. Inherited does not mean permanent, and one interruption proves it.