Every new version of you gets paid for with something comfortable from the old one.

Every upgrade has a price, and the price is usually something comfortable you would rather keep. The lie-in, the easy friendship, the identity that required nothing of you. That is not unfairness, it is simply how the exchange works, and expecting change to cost nothing is what makes it feel like a betrayal when the bill arrives.

Name what this particular change is asking you to give up. Decide consciously whether it is worth it. Paying knowingly is far easier to sustain than being surprised by the cost every few weeks.