There is maturity in admitting two good things cannot both fit.

There is a stage of adulthood that begins with accepting that two genuinely good things sometimes exclude each other, and that no clever arrangement fixes it. The younger response is to look for a way to have both, and the mature one is to choose and mourn briefly what was not chosen.

When you find yourself searching for a way to fit both, ask whether it exists or whether you are avoiding the decision. Choose, and let the other one go properly rather than keeping it half-alive.