Care becomes easiest when it is routine rather than emergency.

Care done as a routine costs little and takes no deciding. Care done as an emergency costs a great deal and arrives at the worst moment, usually when you have least capacity for it. The same activity feels entirely different depending on whether you chose the timing or the situation did.

Take one thing you currently handle reactively and give it a schedule. Monthly, weekly, whatever fits. Routine is what removes both the cost and the dread.