You can have the best vision in the world. If you bail on plans, nobody’s following you anywhere.

Direction only matters to people who believe you will be there. Cancelling repeatedly teaches everyone to discount whatever you say next, including the parts that matter, and it happens gradually enough that you rarely notice the moment your credibility ran out. Ideas are common and reliability is rare, which is why the second decides who gets followed.

Cancel nothing this month that you agreed to, including the small social things. If you cannot commit, say no at the time rather than yes now and no later. Ordinary attendance is what makes the larger promises believable.