You only get so many hills to die on. Don’t waste one on who gets the front seat.

LEADERSHIP

WHAT THIS MEANS

Conflict has a budget, and every argument spends from the same account. Insisting on being right about something trivial costs exactly the same goodwill as insisting about something that matters, and you arrive at the important disagreement with nothing left. People who win every small dispute tend to lose the large ones.

Before you push back, ask whether you would still care about this next week. If not, concede quickly and without performance. Save the full weight of your objection for the few things where being wrong would actually cost somebody something.

A QUESTION TO SIT WITH

Which small argument are you about to spend yourself on?

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