Someone else landing the spot isn’t a withdrawal from your account. There’s no shared balance.

Envy runs on an accounting error. It assumes there is one pot, and that whatever goes to someone else leaves less for you, so their good news arrives feeling like a small loss. Sometimes a single role really is one role, but even then their name on it says nothing about what you are capable of getting next. The sting is real; the arithmetic behind it is not.

When the news lands, notice the story your head tells in the first ten seconds. Say the plain congratulations anyway, then write down what you actually want, so the wanting stays yours.