Feelings become less confusing when you stop judging yourself for having them.

A large part of what makes emotions confusing is the second layer we lay over them. You feel envious and then feel bad about being envious; you feel angry and then argue with yourself about whether you have the right. The original feeling gets buried under the trial, so you never find out what it was about. Self-judgment is not moral seriousness here; it is noise.

Try letting a feeling be present without a verdict on yourself for having it. Say that you are envious, or afraid, or relieved when you should probably be sad, and leave it there. Feelings tend to become legible surprisingly fast once you stop prosecuting them.