Access to you should cost respect, consistency and honesty. Stop running a free trial forever.

Closeness usually gets granted early, on the strength of a good first impression, and then never reviewed. People let in during a generous moment keep the same access years later regardless of how they have behaved since. Nothing about that is fair to you or clarifying for them.

Pick one relationship where the access has outrun the behavior and adjust it quietly rather than announcing it. Less detail shared, slower replies, fewer plans. Let them earn their way back in if they want to, and notice whether they try.