If you walk out of every hangout exhausted, check whether you’ve been carrying everyone’s backpack.

Tiredness after time with people is worth reading rather than ignoring. Often it comes from a role you take without noticing: managing the mood, smoothing the tension, keeping the conversation alive, listening to everything. That is work, and it does not stop being work because it happens socially.

Pay attention during the next one to what you are actually doing. Try being slightly less useful: let a silence sit, let somebody else fix the awkward moment. See whether the evening survives without your management, which it almost always does.