Missing some things on purpose is how you actually show up for the things you choose.

Attendance everywhere means presence nowhere, because the hours have to come from somewhere and they come off the top of whatever you were already doing. Choosing means losing things deliberately instead of losing them through exhaustion. A calendar of half-attended commitments is what happens when nobody chooses.

Decline one thing this week that you could technically attend. Give the time you saved to something you actually care about and be fully there for it. The difference between an evening you chose and one you merely turned up to is easy to feel.