Being checked on every hour isn’t romance. Love doesn’t come with a tracking number.

Constant monitoring gets explained as caring and functions as surveillance, which are different things with different effects. Real attachment lowers anxiety over time, while the checking kind raises it, because each answer only holds until the next gap. The demand tends to grow rather than settle.

Notice whether the requests expand after every reassurance you give. If they do, say plainly what feels reasonable to you and what does not, then watch what happens. Talk it through with somebody outside the relationship, because that view is hard to keep on your own.