Whatever you complain about most is where your attention is leaking. Patch the hole or stop staring at it.

The thing you keep narrating is the thing that owns most of your attention, whether or not it deserves that much. Complaining feels like handling it, but it mostly keeps the wound warm and hands the same hours to the same subject. There are only two honest moves, and repeating the story is not one of them.

Take the complaint you hear yourself make most this week and ask which move it needs. If something can be changed, name the first small step and take it. If nothing can be, it may be worth grieving once properly and then letting your attention go somewhere it can do work.