When plans cancel, notice your first feeling. Relief or disappointment tells you whether you wanted to go.
REFLECTION
WHAT THIS MEANS
The instant a plan falls through, your reaction arrives before your manners do. Relief and disappointment each say something true about whether you wanted to go, while the polite message you type a moment later says nothing at all. It is a free reading of your own preferences.
Catch that first half second the next time something gets called off. Note it somewhere. After a few instances you will have a fairly accurate list of what you actually enjoy and what you have been attending out of obligation.
A QUESTION TO SIT WITH
When plans last fell through, did you feel relief?
MORE IN PERCEPTION & ATTENTION
- Look at your room like a detective would. What does it say about the person who lives there?
- Tired and bored feel the same on the couch, but one needs sleep and the other needs a spark. Know which one you’ve got.
- When a stranger online is desperate to convince you, ask what they earn once you’re convinced.
Free, with nothing to buy inside it.