You can learn someone’s whole plan by watching where their money and time actually go.

Stated intentions are cheap and calendars are not. What someone actually wants shows up in where their hours and money go, because those are limited and therefore honest, and the gap between the two is usually invisible to the person themselves. Nobody has to be lying for the record to be truer than the account.

Apply it to yourself first, since it is most useful there. Look back at last month and see what your time and spending say you were pursuing. If that differs from what you would have told someone, you have found something worth deciding about.