Some people show up to your emergency and somehow leave with all the attention.

There is a kind of person who treats your bad news as an opening. They arrive sincerely enough, and then the conversation bends until you are reassuring them about how hard your situation is for them. You leave more tired than before and slightly unsure why.

When something hard happens, be deliberate about who you tell first. Save the people who can sit with you without needing anything back. The rest can hear about it later, once you have the energy to manage them.