Three friend groups, three blowups, one constant. Pull up a chair with that constant.

Repetition across different settings points somewhere specific. New people, new circumstances and the same ending suggests something portable is involved, and the only portable element is you. That is not a condemnation, since the something is usually one habit rather than a character: how you handle being criticized, or left out, or let down. Naming it is uncomfortable for a day and useful for years.

Sit down with the three endings and look for the identical step. Ask someone who watched at least one of them to be honest with you. Work on that step alone rather than trying to become a different person.