Some things are worth sharing, just not at the first lunch. Let trust catch up to the story.

Not everything true about you belongs in a first conversation. A big thing handed to somebody who has not had time to earn it leaves them holding something they have no idea what to do with, and you may wish afterward that you had waited. Trust gets built in stages for good reasons.

Let a new friendship run a few ordinary rounds before the hard part. Notice how they handle a small confidence and whether it stays with them. And when you do decide to tell somebody, that is your call and nobody else’s timing.