Praying for someone isn’t asking God to fix them to your specs. It’s handing them over.

Concern for another person usually arrives with a design attached: what they should stop doing, who they should stop seeing, the version of them you have in mind. Worry dressed as care is still trying to run their life from a distance. Dropping the specification is the harder act, because it means wanting them well without deciding what well looks like. You give up the blueprint, not the caring.

Think of the person you worry about most and notice the list you keep for them. Try wishing them well this week without the list. Then ask them a question instead of making a suggestion.