Praying for people you can’t stand rarely changes them first. It changes you first.

Wishing someone well on purpose is awkward precisely because it works on the wrong person. The other party carries on exactly as before, unaware and unimproved. What shifts is the sharpness you were carrying, which was costing you more than it ever cost them. Contempt and goodwill cannot occupy the same space, and whichever you practise grows.

Pick the person who irritates you most and spend fifteen seconds a day wanting something good for them. Do it for a week, badly. Then notice how long it takes you to get annoyed on day seven.